The way I are.. =D

Most people who know me, know that I don't play WoW for loot, (although it is nice), I don't play for recognition, & I don't play to kill ppl in PvP. I play for my friends, and in doing that, I have become the "best friend", "little sister", "guild momma", "therapist", and any other name I have been referred to in WoW. And I do love taking care of my friends, heck I feel lonely when no one is online.

So anyways, things have happened, people who want to raid are moving to bigger raiding guilds, people are going where they have other friends, or people are staying where they are and just feeling left out. And I sit, here in the middle, with my friend venting and feeling generally miserable about themselves because they did something for themselves instead of sticking with friends. And I can understand that completely. But here's my two cents for my friends..

1) Who pays for your gametime? Your or your friends?
----A) You do.. which means you play the game how you want to play it, whether raiding, leveling, achievements, or pet/mount collecting. Sure, you can feel bad for not spending time with so and so, or even leaving a guild of friends to raid with a bigger guild, but if it makes you happy, then please do it. Trust me, your friends, at least your real friends, will want you to be happy.

2) "I would feel awkward talking to my friends unless we're doing stuff together"
----A) Why? Wouldn't your friends be happy for you? I've noticed when people leave on good terms from a guild of friends to join another guild, they suddenly become so distant that it's nearly painful to speak to them? Why is that? Mainly due to the basic mentality that "Oh I don't want to seem like I am bragging" or "I don't want them to know I am doing better now".. Right there, stop.. real easy solution.. ya ready?

Type this for me:

/w (Insert Friends name) Hey friend, I miss talking to you, how is (insert something here)

It works, trust me!

Just because your not in the same guild, doesn't mean that you cannot talk to each other. For instance, when I left Iudicium, I went with Shigan, Seren, Ell, and Ahysion, but, on a daily occasion, Dekadence & Hearthzone still talk to me. We're in different guilds, and heck we even left Iudicium on not so great terms, yet we're still talking. Why? Because I took the time after we left to say, "hey, I know we left, but I value our friendship, if you want to talk, feel free to whisper me at any time!". And they do. Really simple.

Now what happens when you do drift apart and are so cautious to talk to each other because your afraid you may strike a nerve?

You can expect to see:
~Loss in friendship, maybe not completely, but if you don't talk to someone for a very long time, they tend to (and not purposely) let you slip from their mind.
(Note: In rl this isn't much of an issue, but in WoW-world, it is different IMO)

~You begin to loose any chances of a friendship coming back after a while. Sure, you can hang back and not talk to them for a few days, and /w them to test the waters. But try to contact them soon. If not they may think you are avoiding them, thus causing for issues.

Now, what happens if you do /w and keep in touch.

~You keep your friendship! What's not wonderful about that?

~You can still run things with them, set up pugs, 2-man low level instances, help each other with quests, and talk non-stop if you want. Only difference is the < Insert Guild Name Here > tag over your head.

~ You will be able to keep an ear on the guild (not in a stealthy bad way), think about it this way. You move from Friend Guild A, to raiding guild B. Raiding guild B gets you in say, 1 raid, and they acted horrible to you. No loot, rude on vent, you notice its a ton of 12 year olds, and basically you do not fit it.. what can you do?
Well first, you /w your friend, and let them know, they'll /pat you and /comfort you, and then, I can nearly bet you they'll welcome you back into Friend Guild A with open arms.

Now if you weren't still friends, you would have to find another guild, and you can't guarantee you'll find one to take you. (Unless your heals or tank lol) You could /w your friends to see if they have a spot open, but since you haven't been talking to them, and have been pretty distant, they may be cold to you.

I realize this is a wall of text, but I have seen so many friendships in WoW fall apart because someone did something that they thought, and in actuality, is better for them and they either let a friendship go down the tubes, or they are too nervous to speak up.

DO NOT DO THIS!!

Simple, easy method to prevent this.

/w your friends daily.

Trust me, it's wonderful..


/end Carebear post

<3 Ory

Sorry for wall of text but I think this was needed =D